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Friendship Interrupted 'Hello, Are You Still There?' von Cianfichi, JoAnne (eBook)

  • Erscheinungsdatum: 07.05.2016
  • Verlag: BookBaby
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Friendship Interrupted

This is the story of two young girls who met and became friends. Over several decades since, they have moved in and out of each other's lives. This account covers many happy times they've shared, obstacles they've surmounted, and how their lives are intertwined. The long-time friends generously share private and personal reflections to assist others in forging and maintaining friendships. As they tell their story, Lisa and JoAnne entertain and amuse with wisdom and humor. While the details of their lives likely differ from those of readers, the emotions are certainly universal.


    Format: ePUB
    Kopierschutz: AdobeDRM
    Seitenzahl: 108
    Erscheinungsdatum: 07.05.2016
    Sprache: Englisch
    ISBN: 9781495178153
    Verlag: BookBaby
    Größe: 539kBytes
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Friendship Interrupted

Chapter Two Appreciating Good Friends and Dropping Others "True happiness consists not in the multitude of friends, but in their worth and choice." -Samuel Johnson, English poet and essayist Not all friends are good for us. If they keep us company or get into mischief with us-that would qualify them as "friends." But the true measure of a good friend is one who backs you up and provides positive support. Many issues can get in the way-money, spouses, social pressures, health, careers, children, gossip, and other friends. But good friends are more than worth their weight in gold. Feeling respected or envied The green-eyed monster is a wicked nemesis to a happy friendship. Jealousy, envy, resentment-the results of comparisons-cause friction that can be devastating. Our best advice to those who want to honor their friends is to be happy for their triumphs and be there when times are tough for them. However, don't assume because your motives are pure that the other person is just the same. You may lend support that your friend wouldn't. However, your friend may support you in another way, make you laugh when you are about to cry, or provide perspective when you're too close to a problem to be objective. We are not clones of one another, so styles and talents and desires differ. Just make sure a friendship is not one-sided. However, having said that, this is not a contest and keeping score just wreaks havoc to positive feelings. Being even does not mean 50-50, but instead means that each person in a friendship benefits-both from giving and taking. Splitting up...and what happens afterward (Lisa) Unfortunately, not all friendships are as precious as the one between JoAnne and me. Ending a long-term friendship with my friend Gabby was difficult, monumental in fact. And yet, the all-encompassing question that faced me was, "Really, Lisa, are you going to go on tolerating and becoming more unhappy about it?" The toxicity of the relationship was overwhelming. But how did Gabby and I arrive at that point? Originally I was going to tell the story of how this friendship began, progressed, and ultimately ended. It happens to be a good story, even funny in parts. But despite disguising the details, and I've already changed her name, I know she will recognize herself. And I have no desire to inflict hurt upon her. I've searched the laundry room of my mind and decided I like fresh smelling laundry. So I'm taking the high road. The romantic notion of friendship is that it should last forever. That is a lovely thought, but sometimes reality forges another path. People grow in different ways, some choosing to stay in the same place, while others need to move forward and embrace change. The years went by and there were many good memories. But unfortunately, the toxic situations kept mounting, overshadowing everything else. Meanwhile, I was evolving and seeking new outlets through my interior design business. And always, my priority was my family-they came first, hands down! Tolerance is always at my core; it is simply part of who I am. But I was asked by my husband, "When does strength become a weakness?" This query brought on serious reflection and finally, I was at the doorstep of ending the friendship. After Gabby and I talked (I didn't just walk away), the split became final. Time has certainly healed. There is a scar, however faint, but it remains. And I know that emotional survival depends on our thoughts. So now, years later, I continue to tell myself, "Make the choice to remember the good times of your friendship with Gabby." Those good times are still in my memory and they are mine. Another memory (Lisa) I remember an early Christmas in my life with my husband, Dan, and our sons, Brendon and Christian. The boys

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