Healing You and Your Family Tree
Healing You and Your Family Tree
The reality of bondage
I was motivated to write this book because of my personal experience with generational bondage. I realized how easily the distress of bondage can potentially disrupt one's spiritual life. We can deal with the trials of bondage from a place of true spiritual strength within us, if only we access that place within. It is the place of my true identity, where I and God are one. It is the place where I am loved and in love; the place of intimacy where I am at home in myself.
Jesus said we must be born from above - by water and the Holy Spirit if we are to enter the kingdom of God (Jn 3:3-8). St. Paul insists that we, the baptized, must be led by the Holy Spirit. Ignorance can cause disruption in our spiritual lives, because faced with the trials of bondage, we are often confused, lack peace, distressed and in desolation.
Such was my experience. If we knew precisely what our problems were, we would direct our attention to finding a solution; and we would take effective measures to resolve it. But if we do not, we may look in the wrong direction causing us to suffer unnecessarily. We may waste time and energy complaining, blaming and condemning ourselves and others for our problem. We may blame God for what He is not responsible for, or blame ourselves for what we are not responsible for, or blame others for what they are not responsible for.
The trials of bondage are not beyond God's power and authority to resolve. Bondage occurs because God permits it; He does so for our greater good. He alone is able to bring good out of evil. Bondage can be a blessing in disguise. The suffering of bondage may seem like going through a dark tunnel with no hope of escape. We can be assured there is always light at the end of the tunnel. In the words of Peter: "after you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace who called you to his eternal glory in Christ will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you" (1 Pet 5:10, NET). That light is the glory of the risen Jesus, who, once slain, now lives forever. He became a curse for us that we might be free from all bondage. Bondage may feel like a death experience, but St. Francis of Assisi said: "It is in dying that we are born to eternal life." Thanks be to God, Jesus Christ has conquered death and the grave. Alleluia!
Perseverance in trials
The Letter to the Hebrews encourages us to endure our trials as discipline, because God treats us as sons and daughters. Our earthly fathers disciplined us to prepare us to face the challenges of life. Every discipline, at the time it is given is like a bitter pill when swallowed; it is painful and uncomfortable. But when we accept and surrender, and are trained by it; in due time, it bears the "peaceful fruit of righteousness" in us (Heb 12:7-11). We become stronger, wiser, and more matured spiritually. It unites us more deeply with the Crucified Lord. God allowed the saints to go through trials, bondage, temptations, persecutions; the same trials we face daily. For our good, the Lord permits these trials to test the quality of our faith, which is more valuable than fire-tried gold that does not last. The true faith will bring praise and honor and glory to Jesus Christ when He returns to reward His saints (1 Pet 1:7). My best definition of a saint is: a saint is a sinner who never stopped trying . God allows all our sufferings to bring us into deeper purification, so that all the corruption and false belief systems in us would be purged from us. Indeed, we must be purged! And we are being purged!
When I was a seminarian, I began to experience an unusual interior distress that I did not understand. I brought this to spiritual direction and Confession, but was not helped. There was no one knowledgeable in generational issues to help me. I informed my superiors in the community of the Intercessors of the